First, a little context: It’s about 9:30 AM on March 20th and I’m on the road to Bikaner from Churu, Rajasthan. It’s about 160 kms. We started at 7:30 AM and with luck we may arrive by noon. The car is a little bit of a thing, with ventilation grids that do not produce air, tired shocks, no rear view mirrors, tiny tires, a speedometer that remains resolutely at zero, and an intermittent horn. Remember my friend in McLeod Ganj who gave me the useful horn reframe? Yesterday and the day before, on narrow mountain roads, I thought about how nice it would be to sound the horn at each hairpin turn. And I wondered why I did not book my twelve-day holiday through the charming Mr. Gupta at Ways Tours and Travels in McLeod Ganj. But I digress.
Teeth grit against the potholes, I begin to compose this note: Sheer, stunning stupidity has landed me on the road to Rajasthan. How did I manage this feat, you might ask? Well …
Delhi was not my favorite stop – one night in a hotel with ants and dirty sheets, one night in a marginally better hotel, and a final night in a decent place. Hotel changes are hard on me. Hard on most travellers.
After the Tex-Tiles fair I am ready for some fun and determined to see Delhi at Night. At Connought Circle, the tourist hub, I find a Government of India tourist centre. I talk with a lovely fellow who offers me two days in Delhi by car, and night for those lights. Why take a bus when the price of this luxury is so low? I explain I have meetings the next day. No problem, madam, we shall put a car and driver at your disposal, no charge. They drive me back to hotel number two. I feel pretty good, and better when my driver takes me into the Singh Palace, where they show me a beautiful room for $25.00. It is late and I tell them I will check in the next morning.
The car picks me up early, I check out and in, again, and drive back to the travel shop. There, I meet with yet another man, who asks me what I will do after McLeod Ganj. Don’t know. Can’t go to see my friend in Nepal – too dangerous right now. Can’t fly too Turkey – too expensive. Well, he smiles, why not go to Rajasthan?? Beautiful cities, comfortable hotels, lovely villages. And for such a little bit of money. And it is a truly inexpensive tour; 10 days with car, driver, all hotels, all entrance fees -–I only have to pay for my food and souvenirs. How can I miss? For those of you who will have similar opportunities in the future, there are a few other questions to ask: In what shape are the roads? What is the distance from one of these lovely cities to the next? And how long does that take to drive? How many stops in those lovely villages? What is the state of the car? Could I have a ride in the car you will send? And so on. I bet other questions will arise before this tour is over. On to the tour:
I leave McLeod Ganj on the 18th at 4:00 PM, after the Teachings. I’m feeling a bit downcast; the day has been filled with good-byes, some of them quite touching. I’d like to check in to the monastery up the mountain and just stay. Maybe take some classes in Buddhism at the Tibetan Library, for Rs. 150 per month, about $5.00 Cdn. Maybe next time, I console myself.
I stop to replace a change purse I gave away in the afternoon. A merchant, and a man I think of as one of my new friends, sees me stop across the street and materializes beside the car. He smiles broadly, spontaneously throws open his arms and gives me a big hug. I have not had many hugs in India, and his lifts my spirits immeasurably. Change purse in hand, I jump into the car and we’re off.
Of course I have one more thing to do, and my young driver, Sundar, accommodates, although he is not happy. I want to go to Rewalsar, site of the Padmasambava cave. Padmasambava is the Indian monk who took Buddhism to Tibet. He is a huge figure in the Buddhist tradition. I learned about him in The Coffee Café where, each morning, I received a gift.
We drive slowly through the hairpin curves, through Dharamsala, through many more little Indian towns, and at 7:30 PM we arrive in Bir, a tiny town renowned for its beautiful monasteries. Sundar thinks we should keep driving, to Rewalser. I don’t. We stay at a lovely little guesthouse nestled in the mountains. I don’t think I’m hungry, but after a shower I go out to the kitchen anyway, just to chat with my hosts.
This Indian couple are cooking dinner, and invite me to join them for meal, no charge. I say I am a little hungry, and I would be honoured to eat with them, in the kitchen, and pay. We are set. I watch them dance around each other in this large, well-equipped space. If poetry really has motion, they are poetry. He makes it clear that she has taught him how to work in the kitchen; he is merely her helper. Every so often I get behind a closed door and find that patriarchy is asleep. It is just so pleasant, sitting there. The two of them love this part of their day, I think.
I watch them some more. She cooks and stirs, adds spice, breathes in warm aromas from several pots, occasionally adds more spice. She does not need to taste. He slices, dices, peels and anticipates her next request. Dinner is placed in front of me and I know I am in the presence of two truly terrific cooks. A cool yogurt dal with sprigs of cilantro and a crispy white puffed rice, a curry veg spiced just to Western taste, a green paste. I overcome my aversion to green vegetables and try the green paste first. Whatever the combination, it is hot, spicy and simply delicious. And so is everything else. The chapatis are feather light, with white insides. The lady shows me the special flour she uses; it is the consistency of medium sand. I ask about the green dish. Cooked spinach. Hmmm, I did not think I liked cooked spinach. I have seconds.
We talk over dinner. They have worked at many jobs in their lives. Two years ago they bought the guesthouse, and he tells me repeatedly it will take three years to get it fixed properly. I think it is pretty darn good now. And I think I have met the best cook in India. Do you give cooking lessons, madam? Gales of giggles greet this. I suggest they consider my question a serious suggestion. Many foreigners love cooking classes. Mentally I revise my next stay in India, adding time for cooking classes with this modest woman.
The couple tell me I must go up the mountain to the Sherb Ling Monastery before I leave. Conscious of time and Sundar’s deep desire to get to Rajasthan, I am ready at 6:15 AM. The car tiptoes up the mountain over crushed, pointed rock. Sundar is a terrific driver and cares for his car; I can only imagine the pain he is feeling. Tires are likely in pain, too. Coming back down, he tells me we will take a different route, longer but better for the tires. We descend on a perfect highway road, past beautifully constructed and cared for Buddhist stupas. It takes less time. I guess my guide just wanted me to see the back of the mountain . . .
At the top we find a huge monastery. The monk at Reception gives me a twenty-page book about the complex, which includes retreat houses for both monks and nuns, two guesthouses for foreign visitors, and a number of other buildings. This monastery also houses a large school for child monks. I watch the children running around the interior of the monastery, adjusting their robes, laughing, and getting ready for class. Several youngsters, about eight I think, go through their books and appear very purposeful in their activity. Perhaps it is a tst day? I see children from 6 to 16, and later have a chance to photograph some of them, in the parking lot, still clutching their breakfast bowls. The Temple, which I came to see, lives up to everything I was told. The hangings, wafting on slender threads from the roof of the Temple, are antiques; absolutely beautiful and perfectly preserved.
We leave Bir behind and head for the cave at Rewalsar. It is about 8:15 AM and I have not had enough coffee. Sundar is hoping to drive straight through. We have a short chat about my age, the fact the I must stop every four hours, that although I do not eat lunch, I do eat breakfast and we should watch for a tea stand where I can do just that. Sundar starts watching.
A word about Sundar. He is 21 years old, and stayed in school up to standard five. He was raised in Haryana, a beautiful agricultural state that I have now driven through twice. At the age of twelve he went to work on the family farm, full-time. This is the age many children leave school and join their father’s enterprise. I think about this for a moment. When Dan and Pam, my two oldest children, were six, they started going to the dairy barn at night to help their father with the milking and clean-up. They did not particularly want to go, and some nights I remember tears, but they went. This short reflection gives me another view of child labour. I'm thinking about this a lot, and will eventually put up a note.
Sundar has worked at many jobs. At one point he drove a truck and he tells me this is very dangerous work. In the two nights to come, I will see the danger first-hand. Sundar is a quiet, gentle and extremely good-hearted young man. He calls me mother. It beats ma’am. And there is no way in this lifetime that he could ever bring himself to call me Jane. As we travel further and further, he knows the horrible roads are creating havoc with my back, and he drives with exquisite caution. Of course I can’t tell what our speed is, but I watch the kilometers go by, and we seem to be averaging 30 to 40 km/hour. Lots of time to see the sights, but I do not ask to stop for pictures – we are on a mission to get to the next stop. I miss a few stellar pics, but it is hot, and dirty, and who knows how long it will take to get to the next hotel? Perhaps a couple of lorries will collide again, and we’ll be stopped for an hour or more. This is not pleasant travel, my friends.
Sundar’s English is fundamental, and abstract questions do not compute. I think this is, in part, because he has remained very young. For example, I saw the most amazing thing: dung being piled up in intricate circles, till the edifice comes to a point, about ten feet tall. I did stop for a picture and will get it up eventually. So, I saw the cow dung drying, and the intricate buildings that, once finished, are covered with straw and tied with twine. I ask Sundar to tell me more. He pauses, thinks, and says: “The cow potty is for fire, Mother, in the winter when it is cold. The cover protects it from the rain, rain,” this last accompanied rain motions. We talk about this some more. We pass a partially opened dung house, and Sundar points to the bit of wall that has been removed near the bottom. Fire, take out, he tells me, and I thank him for helping me to understand. I step hard on my impatience, and after a while I quietly tell Sundar that the name for cow potty is actually cattle dung. His discomfort with this terminology shows in his averted eyes. No matter what his language, this youngster just wants me to be happy. I resolve to stay kind even when I feel awful. And I do feel awful.
We arrive at Rewalsar, and Sundar asks the location of the cave. It is up the mountain. Above it, at the top, is a very sacred Hindu Temple. Sundar is elated; he is a devout Hindu and of course he has only heard of this place. Can we go? Of course, I want to see it to. On the way we meet a man who sells offerings for the Temple. Would we drive him up? This is one of the joys of having a vehicle; we have offered rides to many people. On the way up Sundar purchases an offering bag for me. Inside is a coconut, a large bag of puffed rice, a bindi package and a red piece of chiffon, three feet long, stitched on either side with one-inch tinsel fabric.
We arrive and walk past about twenty shops selling the offering bundles. How does anyone make any money, I wonder, sitting here on the top of a huge mountain? Do that many people actually make a pilgrimage, I ask? Indeed. In fact there is a festival coming when people will come here for 10 days of prayers. As I walk, I wrap the coconut in the fabric, as I’ve seen in the shops. I feel quite ecumenical.
We doff our shoes when we reach the Temple, and go in. Sundar talks with the priest, and receives a blessing. I also receive a blessing. We walk around the sanctuary and I find my favorite goddess, Sarasvatti, goddess of education.
And we are off to Padmasambava’s cave. On the way down from the Hindu Temple the prayer flags, which astonished me on the first pass going up, leave me breathless. There are literally hundreds of thousands of prayer flags stretched between trees, hung between bushes, hanging down parts of the mountain, on the telephone wires – it is really something. Who hung all these flags, I wonder?
I soon learn as I meet the one man who runs a tea stall and souvenir shop at the bottom of a very steep flight of steps. We exchange greetings, chat a bit. As I go to leave, he asks if I would like a set of prayer flags. No thank you, I tell him pleasantly, I have quite a few. Then it hits me – people who come to the cave and the mountain hang the flags! I buy a small set, reasonably priced. And today there is a prayer flag waving just for you, dear reader, – whether you be family, friend, colleague, student or one of the many new friends who now visit my website.
The climb is straight up, but it is cool, and with some stops I get to the first landing. We enter the cave of Padmasambava. It is low, and very lovely. I sit for a while. Then we travel up higher, to see the secret cave. I wonder why he needed a secret cave? I go a little higher up, and Sundar helps me hang my flags. They are rippling merrily in the breeze as I leave. At the bottom of the hill we have a chai, because the young man does not have any coffee, and we’re off. Off to Bikaner! Maybe.